I saw a posting which says…”I just want to Love myself…again”. And what a true,honest and wise declaration and acknowledgment.And this is a silent unconscious aspiration of all beings.This wish to love oneself can come in the form of a longing to be loved,to want to love someone(sometimes obsessively),hankering for happiness and satisfaction in life,searching for something unknown,a feeling of empty,meaningless existence,the joylessness of depression,jealousy and selfishness.Even a deep sense of joyous delight and pleasure can evoke a desire of wanting to love oneself.
We often hear words telling us to pray, love,to forgive, to do good, to be kind,to be happy, to be nice and pleasing,to not hurt,to not worry,to not think too much,to be happy.Then we tell ourselves,we already love,we are happy,we don’t care what others are doing, we are not doing anything bad,we are nice and please others too much,we are the ones who are hurt,we say that we are not thinking too much or worrying,etc.In other words we play victim of denial,defence and demand/expecting love from external sources.The ‘call’to come home into the core of our being is happening every moment of our lives,non-stop!
How are we to hear its still,quiet voice when we are busy looking externally for love,craving attention(to be liked and to feel significant) and being seduced by a myriad of worldly attractions in all sorts of forms/ways.The world tells us to be kept busy with muti-tasking.We are disturbed by people and situations and get caught playing ignorant games of the mind.We become identified with running constant negative commentaries in the already tired mind.So we believe whatever the busy and negative mind is chattering/nattering to us…and it mostly makes us feel bad/harsh of ourselves.The mind keeps us outside of ourselves,it prevents the entry Within the self into the Heart(home is where the heart is,where love lives).
On the other hand when we practice and learn to tame,calm and quiet the mind,it becomes our guide and provides the ‘ladder’down into the Heart(True Self)…..where we will be empowered, embraced and engulfed with Joy,Wisdom and Compassion,thus we come to know/meet Love(God) and will love ourselves/others unconditionally.The unconscious ‘war’ within the self is ended,Truth is revealed…….we come to the True state of Conscious Living!Are we willing and courageous to sit by ourselves,to face whatever Truth about ourselves(guilts,shames,fears and flaws,goodness and kindness,etc.)in order to let it all go and Be who we already are….Love itself!
When the mind is silenced,the Heart speaks!